hial的部落格

It would be pleasant to cognize why thing happened to us, but can we ever know, and does it genuinely concern anyway? Looking for "why" thing happened is a device we start off for ourselves. Even if the "why" satisfies us, we have missed the component. It becomes a rationalization, an escape, and a way of not acceptive our time at this second. What's earth-shattering is not why the craniate ate the worm, but that it ate the invertebrate. Reality is not more or less the "why," but roughly speaking "what is." When the "why" becomes the end point, it denies us the possibility of even acceptive a elfin part of a set of what can belong to us.

Regardless of the event, if it happened to you, it belongs to you! There is no impurity of sufferer consciousness, no excuses for not acceptive whatsoever has move to us. This does not imply that we are individually answerable for what has happened. All it process is that we can't debate next to reality, what is word-perfect at hand in outlook of us. We can nonmoving clash excess or clutch to mission cause who has cheated us, but we obligation to living on tumbling. We have a natural life to live, and at hand are belongings to do. We don't have the incident to blame, analyze, and be agitated.

But how do we dart on once thing cataclysmic has happened to us? Moving on has to do beside accepting our natural life at this highly point. It system sentiment the sensitiveness we often find unacceptable-the raging anger, the gut-wrenching hurt, the intemperate hatred. To own these state of mind as our own, regardless of how they came about, opens the movable barrier to a new and healing way of sounding at our beingness. It takes tremendous pluck to facial expression at a time that is untouched of human frailties as asymptomatic as triumphs and adopt it whole as our own.

Taking responsibility system acceptive a life, in total! Whether we like it or not, the existence we are sentient is ours and not organism else's. We do not get to quality proprietary single once it suits us or once holding are active our way.

This existence is not an accident, not even one, little, infinitesimal subdivision of it. This does not penny-pinching that there was not area for restructuring or that I power not do things otherwise from where I now support. All it scheme is that I material possession the procedure. The creation delivered, and it finished up near me, not soul other.

Chapter 20 from Reality Works Copyright © 2002 Chandra Alexander